I’m of the opinion that using the phrase “wow, what an *adjective* *noun* it has
been…” as an opener is a lazy use of literary devices. But seriously, wow what a
journey it has been getting back to Thailand.
If you don’t already know, I’m living in Bangkok baby!
It’s been a strange turn of events, but that’s the exciting thing about travel.
The short version of my recent journey up until now was that I travelled through
Thailand on my way to the United Kingdom where I then lived, working in a pub
for a few months. I had such a fantastic time in Thailand, that I had decided I
would go back there for a few months before going back to Europe to explore
further. Life intervenes, as always and I had to go back to Australia for a
funeral a few weeks before I was set to fly from London to Bangkok. This cost me
all of my money and then I had to work in Australia for 6 weeks before finally
getting to Bangkok.
So how is this relevant to the fear of not realising your travel aspirations?
Exceptional question. I’m glad you took the time out of your day to ask.
I Was Afraid That I Might Get Stuck in Australia
I was back in my home country and I was broke once again. I didn’t have a ticket
out of the country, my savings were gone and I had no job. I had countless
stories running through my head, that I heard from so many people in the UK
about how they had gone to Australia, and when they had decided to go home “just
for a few weeks” they had never made it back.
There were two main things I was concerned about:
- Buying into the idea that I was going to go back “someday soon” and it
slipping away from me.
- Having to stay in Australia long enough to find a decent job, meaning I
would have to find somewhere semi-permanent to stay and then I might incur
ongoing expenses and commitments such as rent etc. making it difficult to
extricate myself from my life there. If that had happened, I would have been
greatly at risk of settling down without knowing that’s what I was
I wish I could drag this post out with further useful content, but there was
only one key thing that I took away from this experience on how to avoid the
Live In Constant Fear. It’s the Best Thing for You
Don’t fight the fear. As soon as you push aside those worries, you’re no longer
desperately motivated to overcome them. Suffer the short term increase in
cortisol levels and let the horror of your predicament keep you up at night.
Become antisocial from the fact that you’re brain is always thinking about that
fear and you can’t hold a conversation. Just do whatever it takes to not fall
into the trap so that many before have.
Many a great man has been lost to settling down.